still waiting. But somehow, in the back of your mind, this feels right. You’re not just looking for someone to fill a void you’re waiting for the right person. Someone who fits within your life, shares your values, and reflects the kind of love you truly deserve. It’s not an easy task, it’s not a quick process, but there’s always something authentic about the wait.
The Pressure to Settle is Real
The world is full of signals that will make you feel behind your best friend’s wedding photos, your cousin’s 3rd engagement status. You hear your thoughts tell you, “Aren’t you too picky?” or, “You should give them a chance.” Social media gives you the option to portray love as this edited highlight reel and causes you to question your own expectations.
Here’s the contract. Being with someone instead of waiting leaves you feeling more lonely than being alone. Settling out of desperation to escape from solitude is unlikely to yield the results you’re seeking and is more likely to leave you feeling resentment, dissatisfaction, and emotional disconnection. Holding out is not being obstinate; it’s being self aware.
Learning to Be Content with Yourself
Your quest for finding the perfect partner often starts with developing a deep love and appreciation for yourself. While this may feel like something you would see on a Pinterest quote, it is the foundation. When you start enjoying your own company, finding your own passions, finding your voice, and establishing boundaries, you will realize that it will make searching for love much easier. Instead of looking for someone to “complete” you, you will work on yourself where you will realize you are whole.
This time spent by yourself is not empty: it is full! You are gaining experience on how you want to treat yourself, which eventually sets the stage for how others should treat you too. It is not about becoming perfect, it is about being ready.
Redefining What “The Right Person” Means
We often get caught up chasing a checklist: tall, funny, successful, nice smile. However, a connection is not solely based on superficial qualities. Elements of emotional safety, respect for one another as equals, similar value systems are all much more lasting than chemistry.
When considering “the right person”, it doesn’t mean waiting for a perfect partner; it means waiting until you find someone who understands the complexity of who you are as a person, who chooses to grow alongside you, whose company feels like peace rather than pressure, who doesn’t make you question your worth rather, whose company reminds you of your value.
You will know, not by the “fireworks” but by the calm, the ease, and the authentic joy of being yourself with someone.
There’s Strength in the Wait
Loneliness is perceived as weakness but it is actually a sign of great strength when one prefers solitude over poor companionship. It’s simple to swipe, settle, or say nothing merely to escape the pain of loneliness. But what is difficult is sustaining the path. Guarding your heart. Staying true to your principles.
So yes, wait for the one. Even though it appears that they will never cease. Even when it feels lonely and difficult when doubt sets in there. Because when the right person enters your life (and they will), you will be glad that you didn’t settle for someone who didn’t appreciate your heart.
Worth The Wait
No one else’s love story has to be the same as yours. Allow it to develop organically, in its own lovely cadence. Take the time. There is no need to rush. Trust time and trust yourself. In a world built on instant gratification, it is quietly rebellious and powerful to wait for the right person and to realize, there is enough love within yourself until that person comes along.
